Despite struggles kids still deserve to dream big

With the country’s current struggles — inflation, a lingering pandemic, a possible housing crisis — parents are struggling. Add school supplies, new shoes, and lunch money for their kids, and parents surely feel some stress.

As students return to school, it might be tempting to shelter them, to limit their dreams, in case they aren’t fulfilled, or to communicate too much (or too little) about the current struggle now.

This is a mistake.

Despite the last few turbulent years, kids are still overcoming odds and making their dreams come true.

As we help our kids fill their backpacks and check off school-supply lists, it’s hard not to be anxious.

The past few years have been wrought with pain, confusion, stress and chaos. Between masks and vaccines, school shootings and financial concerns, there’s no doubt kids feel some of this stress themselves, plus the residual from their parents.

It might be tempting to just tell kids to try to muddle through or to do their school work or sports practices at half-effort, because we don’t know what kind of world awaits us in 2023 and beyond. After all, parents have lost loved ones, gotten COVID, watched their 401(k) accounts tank and struggled with just paying the bills. What if things just get worse?

But kids need goals not just for goals’ sake, but also so they acquire the character and discipline necessary to achieve, even if they fall short of the goal.

The older I get, the more I realize how much grit has to do with success in life. No doubt other parents know this to be true as well. In her book “Grit,” author Angela Duckworth found that talent wasn’t really an indicator of success, but work ethic often was. “Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare,” she writes.

She also says: “As much as talent counts, effort counts twice.”

Maxims like these are useful during times like this. Parents tend to want to control many aspects of their kids’ lives. But if we’ve learned anything the past few years, it’s that little is in our control.

We cannot guarantee our children won’t see another wave of COVID, that their safety won’t be in jeopardy or that they won’t get their heart broken or their dreams crushed. Not everyone gets the girl or the scholarship offer. But hope is a powerful concept, especially during times like these. Combined with grit, it just might take our kids farther than they imagined.

Times are not so dark that a kid cannot still feel the satisfaction of an A grade, making the team, a fun night out with friends or learning to drive. Parents must dig deep and be honest about the present without making kids too cynical about the future.

Kids are intelligent: They know times are hard. But they still deserve to dream big, just like we did, even if life hasn’t turned out just the way we wanted.

— Nicole Russell

Fort Worth Star-Telegram